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Hi guys!

I see I have some new subscribers, welcome.

Unfortunately, I have nothing new for you...life has come calling. I am mostly finished with not one, but two articles that I will be posting come hell or high water in the new week or so. (hopefully, maybe) One details the trip to Colorado I took two weekends ago. The other deals with synchronicity.

I know this is a check in and I don't usually get too wordy in these things, but I've been feeling the need the last few days to express myself. Not through any formal (or what passes as formal on here) article, but just a little free form thinking, so here it goes.

It's really difficult to really get to know anyone these days. I'm not just speaking about the social distancing that's going on, but rather a more chronic issue. The way we conduct ourselves does not invite closeness or intimacy. We are all encouraged to put on our best selfie smiles and attitudes and play down any faults that we have. Or to showcase them in a way that makes us "unique" or "special". The problem is that most of us, while we all have our own quirks or ticks that are only our own, are not sensational. Most of them are quiet things. Things that are anticlimactic. Things that elicit responses such as the sound of crickets, or in the case of my sister 'cool story bro.' They are not impressive. They are not flashy, but they are us. They are who we are. They are the things that people learn only by being around us for a significant length of time.

So many true, good, substantial relationships are actually built on those little things, and we are systematically forgetting how important they are. We don't really talk about the little stuff anymore. Everything has to be a big deal, or it's not worth mentioning.

So to buck that trend, here are some little things about me.

My favorite scent is clover pollen, but mountain pine is a close second. I like store bought box mac and cheese and no-bake cheese cakes more than the homemade, better quality baked kind. My oldest fantasy is to have a man kiss the back of my neck while I'm cooking him dinner.

And I believe that someday I will find someone who will take the time to learn those little things about me.

Until then, I sit tight and I try to remember to make time to learn others' little things.

Not profound perhaps, but just something I have been thinking about.

Until next time, hope everyone is well. Talk to you soon.